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Happy November guys! How was your October? It felt like it went by so fast, but I’m embracing this new month and hope I’ll be even more productive than I was last month! A few months ago, I mentioned that I’d make a post about the benefits of a long distance relationship … but it slipped from my mind until a few days ago! Better late than never, right? How could there possibly be any pros to a LDR? Keep reading to find out!
Benefits of a Long Distance Relationship
LDRs (long distance relationships) can be really tough! You don’t have the same interactions that other couples have. Depending on how big the distance is, you can’t always be together for every holiday. If you’re poor (like Victor and me), you can’t always go off to see them for vacation.
It Cultivates Patience
It seems all too common nowadays to see impatient, isn’t it? We just want everything NOW! One of the benefits to a long distance relationship is that it teaches you patience. It’s not like you have much of a choice anyway, right?? If we could all change our life situation so it suited us best all the time, we’d do it.
My long-distance relationship with Victor is going to stay as a LDR for a few years because lack of financial stability and school separates us. We could definitely try to go for it now but I’m sure it wouldn’t end well. It might seem like forever but it cultivates patience and also tests how much you love the other person by waiting for them to be ready.
It Increases Motivation and Productivity
Attraction to and love for another person is one of the best ways to motivate someone to do something. If you had a huge crush on this guy from the other cubicle and you knew he loved red shirts, you might be more motivated to dig every red or shade of red shirt you have and wear it on the days you knew he’d see you.
A motivating factor that I use on my teenage hygiene patients that actually works is bringing up the fact that they might have a boyfriend / girlfriend or are in the middle of trying to get a certain someone to notice them. “Gotta keep your teeth clean so that’ll help cut down on bad breath!” or something to that effect after mentioning that special someone usually works on them – they become very receptive.
Basically, what I’m trying to say is that LDRs can help you get motivated to move and do xyz as well. If you knew that doing x would help speed up the time when you’re apart from your partner, wouldn’t you do it? What if doing that thing enabled you to get into a better mental / physical / financial situation by the time you’re together?
I’m going back to school for Graphic Design not only because I want to go back to doing what I love, but it also will allow me to make more money than I do now so I can contribute to our future expenses. Victor is likewise going to school so he can be marketable in the working world and we can both live comfortably.
You’re More Appreciative
“You don’t know what you have until it’s gone.”
This saying is so true and applies to LDRs as well. Your partner isn’t DEAD but they’re away from you for most of the time.
The feeling of having them by your side and spending time together for a while is wonderful but then comes the very painful moment when they have to return home and you may not see them until a few months or a year later … or even longer! Some people already feel some sort of “separation anxiety” if they haven’t seen their boyfriend/girlfriend (who lives a town away) in a week or two.
At some point before Victor arrived in the US, I was almost thinking it would be better for him not to visit me because I don’t know how I’d handle the pain of him leaving after a month or so of being with me. I cried so much before I left PEI, and I cried a lot again before he left the US. I’ve learned that time is precious and I’ve learned to appreciate every minute and every second I could spend with him.
In LDRs, you know what it feels like to have them leave you, what life feels like spending time with them and going without for a while. You learn not to take them for granted.
Are you in a long distance relationship? If so, can you think of other benefits of being in one? I’d much rather not be in a long distance relationship and have him here with me but I try to look on the bright side lol!
Sending Your Greetings Digitally
In line with long distance relationships, nowadays it’s much easier to send your greetings to your loved ones, and you don’t even need a physical card and envelope! Paperless Post is a company that makes it simple and easy to personalize a greeting card that you can send digitally to anyone around the world. There are cards for every occasion, like birthdays, weddings, Christmas cards, or even a card “just because”.
Besides greeting cards, you can personalize other forms of stationary on Paperless Post like flyers, and invitations! They have so many cute and modern designs and they’re all pretty cheap. You can earn coins (their “currency” for cards) by simply downloading their app or even liking their Facebook page. It’s definitely worth signing up for.
Thanks for reading! Until next time ♡